Why Can’t Little Girls Dream?

When I was little, I dreamt of having my very own prince charming. I thought of how wonderful it would be to have someone fight evil for me, and bring me back to life with a KISS if ever I were in peril!!! I thought a fairytale wedding and a handsome man who cared for me would be amazing. And before you say it, none of this is due to Daddy issues… My Dad was absolutely amazing.

I was raised to be a strong woman who could do for herself, but who could also be with another human and work through life, together. A woman who could support a man in what he does, and also tell him hush when it’s necessary. (Love you, Husband.) I pray this is what we are able to teach to our daughter.

I quit college and ran off to marry a man I had only met IN PERSON…5/7 times, I think it was…when I was 20. Everyone thought I had lost my mind. However, After moving across the country, I went back to school, and am currently a (non-working) LPN.

Now, if someone had told me I couldn’t dream, changed my dreams, or had instructed me on what THEY thought proper womanhood was, I may not be where I am, today. I completed school. I have been married to Prince Charming for 16 years. We have three amazing children whom I have chosen to stay at home with. I’m not sure if you noticed, but the three children were nowhere in the childhood dreams. I had NO desire for children. Not adopted ones. Not birthed ones. NONE. They were terribly annoying, even when I was one. But…things change.

In a world full of chaos, why not let little girls dream?

Our daughter, Evelyn, plays ALL day. She has 1200 horses and all the things to go with. She’s gotten horses for her birthday and Christmas for the last three years. She LOVES them. She sets them up, and she plays out any scenario she can think of. She also likes to have “skateboard lessons” for her stuffed animals with her brother. She likes to race both of her brothers on foot and on her bike/scooter. She likes to read princess books, and Diary of a Wimpy Kid. Not too long ago, she went through a phase when she was spying the kissy pages on her princess books…. All at once. Laid out on her bed.

On the other hand, per her, SHE will NOT be kissing boys, and she wants to adopt ALL the babies who don’t have homes. What an amazing little girl.

In our home, we try to support any type of imaginary play the kids can come up with. It’s where learning, dreams, and genius begin! I had someone ask me the other day “what do your kids do then?” when I told them that we did not have cable.

They play??

This big old world is FULL of not so amazing things. Our children will have to deal with a lot of unhappiness and tragedy before their lives are over. Why not let them dream amazing dreams, whatever they may be, while they can! All I pray for is that they will be happy and successful in ways that make God happy. And not successful as in millionaires, but successful as in that they are able to complete whatever goals they set out before themselves.

I hope that they have families to love and laugh with for years long after their father and I are gone. And, for Evelyn, if that includes marrying a guy she just met (cue handsome Prince…on a horse…it’s all making sense, now…the horse will suck her in…) who she believes can give her the world, so be it. There is no reason that little girls cannot dream big, fairy tale dreams. Now, as I said, She isn’t kissing boys, and plans to adopt all the babies. BUT, it could change, and who am I to tell her what her dreams are?

Maybe we should worry a little less about the harmless, childhood dreams our children are having, and just be thankful that they are dreaming. Our job is to teach our children to be safe and smart and good humans, but there will come a time when all we have left to do for them is pray. Pray for their safety. Pray that we did a good job raising them. Pray that they are smart, healthy, and happy. I know it completely freaked my dad out when I ran off and got married. He had only met my husband ONCE. We moved from West Virginia to California six months later. I am sure he prayed a LOT.

In the age of technology, I thank God my children dream happy and fun dreams. And in a world where SO many people want to tell little girls who and what they should be, I am especially thankful that Evelyn dreams.

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Nut Note

Yes, we are still here.  We are nearing month six of no Daddy, and baby Evelyn is 26 weeks.  

The boys are loving baby Evie. I must admit, I am a bit surprised…ha ha.  They like to feel her move, and, sometimes, they say they want her out…  We then discuss that she isn’t NEARLY ready yet.  😉

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My four year old is still his same old self.  My two year old, however, has lost his mind.  He’s closer to three than two at this point, but everyone swears he’s hitting terrible two’s.  He thinks he a miniature sized boss!  

Not much longer and DADDY can deal with it!  😉  lol

In case I have not informed you darling folks, I started two new business this winter.  I am now an Independent Beauty Consultant with Mary Kay and a Beach Body Coach.  Promoting a beautiful you on the inside AND out!  I love both of these companies, and I am having a blast with them.  

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I have also taken up sewing…  I have been sewing things to put in the baby’s room. 🙂

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Keeping busy and trying not to go crazy in this itty bitty world. 🙂  

Wish me luck!  😉

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  One day at a time. :-)***

New Year, Dirty House?

So far, I am doing well with all my goals.  I have done more of my workout videos in the last week, than I did the whole month of December.  I, EVEN, became an official Beach Body Coach!  😉  Love, Love, Love my shakes and my get fit video!  Don’t be surprised if a THIRD blog pops up.  😉

I have been contemplating our garden.  It is not NEARLY big enough to make enough food to can, but we could at least eat well all summer.  I just need to optimize space and get it going!

I have, definitely, been reading AND blogging more.  I, finally, started “Dreams of Joy”.  I have been wanting to read it forever….LOVE Lisa See!  It is as awesome, so far, as I thought it would be. 🙂  We will, also, be starting a new book at church next Tuesday, “Bad Girls of the Bible“.  I will, definitely, update you on that book as soon as I start it!  🙂

I have been writing a lot in my other blog: Voyage Towards Up.  I missed you all, though, and I wanted to stop in and say HELLO!

The kids are doing great. 🙂  They are so smart, and I can honestly say my patience with their “not smart actions” is getting better.  Day by Day…

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The problem that I have found with all the “bettering me” stuff is that it is worsening the house! I am making time for the things I want to accomplish, but now the house looks like this on a pretty constant basis!

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If anyone out there has a plan to remedy this, PLEASE help!  😉

***McCrazy Daily Lessons: Prioritize…the rest will all work out??***

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Day One

Not a bad day. 

The boys had a friend over (and me too), and that always makes for a more cheery day!  They had an absolute blast driving the new John Deer Gator around…  Silly Boys.  🙂

I started my workout: Brazil Butt Lift.  I did not complete it, but I did start, and WOW.  I am out of shape, have no balance left, AND all the jerking around??  HA!  It’s going to take me and my 21 week pregnant “butt” a minute to catch up to all this!  It will be worth it, though.  🙂

I bought a few books to read on my Kindle.  Some free; some cheap; all good.  😉  I even sat down and read a few pages of “Killing Jesus” this evening.  Still loving it!  

I got the boys a couple books to read, as well.  Bedtime story time.  😉  I found the cutest little kids devotional!  I have only sampled it, so far, but believe I will be buying it!  

Now, my blog.  🙂  I have found that I cannot do it all in a day, but…

***McCrazy Daily Lesson: If we work to set aside time for the important things, we can accomplish many things.***

~COLOSSIANS 3:2 SET YOUR MINDS ON THINGS THAT ARE ABOVE, NOT ON THINGS THAT ARE ON EARTH.

~Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Here’s to strengthening our minds, bodies, and faith in the new year!

McCrazy Update

Have you been wondering if things have settled down around here??!?  Let me paraphrase: no.

The four year old has lost his MIND!  He’s growing too fast, and his mind is all over he place…crazy and nutty AND smart….  He has been asking all sorts of intelligent questions.

But, then he does this…

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Mmmm Hmmm…

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  Just roll with it…  They are only small for a while.  Enjoy.  🙂  ***

Ringing the Bell

The McKay Family is VERY excited to be ringing the Salvation Army Bell for the first time tomorrow!

The boys have already put money in this year, so the older one knew what I was talking about when I told him what we were doing.  🙂  He is excited to do it.  I do not believe the little knows, but he’ll fine.  😉

I am happy that we can help, and I am hoping for this to be the starting place for the boys to get a better understanding of “it’s not all about YOU!”

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When we are done, it’ll be time for—-cupcake delivery to the church!  So glad I found the energy to get them done.  🙂

Tis the season, but the season for helping others should be year round!

Weekly Nut Note

I REALLY have to start writing down the things my 4 year old says…

He has hit the age where he says insane things ALL THE TIME.  Sometimes they make sense; sometimes they don’t make sense.   He uses the big words he hears, and they may or may not belong where he puts them.  🙂

He’s becoming quite the little comedian.  The other day he had two t-shirts on.  He pulled one off.  As he was revealing the one that was on the inside, he says, “I bring you…THIS ONE!” and points to the second shirt…  Where does he get this stuff??

The week has otherwise been quiet!  Thankfully.  They started school and soccer this week.  They loved both and have been wonderful boys!  Derek even got ALL GREEN STICKERS at school!

No house painting being done by the two-year old or anything else of that nature.  Keep your fingers crossed for a wondrous week!  😉

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  Be thankful for the quiet.  It often precedes the storm!***

Are your kids nuts!!  Would the happenings of YOUR house drive a sane person mad??  Tell me about it!!  Would love to post here on MCCRAZY DAILY LESSON!!!  The madness can always be used to learn a lesson!

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Weekly Nut Note

A little late this week.  Busy, busy with school starting for the boys!  I’ve been all over the place trying to get ready.  I COMPLETELY flaked on open house…  Aye!  We did, however, manage to have some end of summer fun!  🙂

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Our trip, also, gave me an opportunity to get some new photos for my “Pretty Pretty Pictures” section.  🙂  It’s been a while since the boys and I got out.  It was nice.  🙂

On to the “nut” part…

  • My, almost, four-year old is still praying for God to bless random Disney characters…
  • If you have ever been away from your spouse for any amount of time, you know that emails, texts, or phone calls ALL become insanely exciting and important.  Even if it’s TWO WORDS…  So, this morning at around 4am my husband wrote.  Derek woke from a dead sleep and yelled “mom”!

I said “Yes, buddy?”

He said, “Dad just wrote you”.

“Ok, thanks buddy!”

“You’re welcome!”

Then, straight back to sleep!  He had heard the “daddy wrote” ringtone IN HIS SLEEP!

  • Today topped it all.  Derek has decided he wants to dress like Daddy for Halloween…  When I told him that would be good, he voiced his desire to go to daddy’s fireship for Halloween.  I reminded him Daddy wouldn’t be here for Halloween.  He, then, tells me…and I quote…”Then send me to Daddy!  We can get a big, strong box, and you can mail me to Daddy!  …  Let me get my shoes!”

The mind of a child.  🙂

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  Seek to grasp childhood thinking and happiness!  It’s the best place to be!!***

The New Normal

“The past two-ish weeks have been a whirlwind; between getting ready for deployment and Derek making chief. I am, [both], proud and happy to announce that we got him off in one piece this morning!! Way to go Team McKay! Let the countdown to Daddy begin!!  ❤ Stay Strong Team Stout! <3″

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That was yesterday’s facebook status update shortly after we watched Daddy sail away.

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It was a different experience this time; we have kids.

I thought it would be fun for the boys to watch the ship.  😉  I, however, did not take into consideration the getting up at 5:30am part.  😉    

The 2 year old cried, because he was so exhausted by the time they left.

The 4 year old BAWLED because Daddy was leaving.  He wanted to go with him and help him.  

It made me feel awful, and for a few minutes, I rethought my decision to take them.  It only took a couple minutes of talking to him to calm him down, though.  I explained we WERE helping Daddy.  Daddy would need things, and we would get them for him.  If we were ALL on the ship, together, there would be no one to send the things we would need.  This seemed to get through to him.

After getting home, napping, and bathing they were much better.  Throw in a birthday party and some “Daddy Books” reading time, and you’ve got brand new boys.

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We will all miss him terribly, but we will all be ok.  🙂Image

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Now comes the tricky part.  Adjusting to “The New Normal” for the next nine-ish months…

The normal where I have to entertain Daddy and Mommy style; 24 hours a day, seven days a week.    EEK!  lol

Lucky for us we have things like email, texts, and skype.  AND regular mail.  I already have Daddy box plans.  🙂  I think the boys will enjoy this part as well.

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Those Daddy Books (as we call them and pictured above) are a real lifesaver.  

Whenever I start feeling down about our situation, I think about all the veterans and families that came before us…  The ones who got a letter every few weeks, or months, and that was all the communication they had.  

We are lucky to have these luxuries.  

While we will miss him EVERY DAY, we could not be more proud of Daddy and what he does for us.  

He is our hero.

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Safe sailing and happy travels, Daddy.  We love you, and we will see you in “just a couple of days”.  😉 

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  No matter the distance, LOVE is bigger.  No matter the storm, LOVE is stronger.***

Some of the toughest times in my life have been during these long deployments.  It doesn’t change a thing; I wouldn’t change a thing.  We are Navy; that is us.  

Fair Winds and Following Seas, my love.

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McCrazy House

This blog started as a “diary” of sorts of the Crazy McKay house…Mccrazy.  I realize I have strayed a bit from that, so I wanted to update a bit.

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This is a picture of my babies getting baptized.  Yes, we are in front of the church.  She is talking about baptismal importance, and my child is doing that…^^^   

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 This is on the church bus going to camp.  They thought they were SO cool!!Image

  This is, actually, tonight’s dinner.  They wanted cantaloupe…in a sled…in the house…in summer…  The following quote is what I wrote on facebook, shortly after this was taken, to my friends: “Turkey Italian sausage now…they love it!!! it’s a sled… now they are pretending they have babies in their belly… ”

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  Cherish these moments, and document them carefully.  Their WIVES will want to know some day!!!***