Why Can’t Little Girls Dream?

When I was little, I dreamt of having my very own prince charming. I thought of how wonderful it would be to have someone fight evil for me, and bring me back to life with a KISS if ever I were in peril!!! I thought a fairytale wedding and a handsome man who cared for me would be amazing. And before you say it, none of this is due to Daddy issues… My Dad was absolutely amazing.

I was raised to be a strong woman who could do for herself, but who could also be with another human and work through life, together. A woman who could support a man in what he does, and also tell him hush when it’s necessary. (Love you, Husband.) I pray this is what we are able to teach to our daughter.

I quit college and ran off to marry a man I had only met IN PERSON…5/7 times, I think it was…when I was 20. Everyone thought I had lost my mind. However, After moving across the country, I went back to school, and am currently a (non-working) LPN.

Now, if someone had told me I couldn’t dream, changed my dreams, or had instructed me on what THEY thought proper womanhood was, I may not be where I am, today. I completed school. I have been married to Prince Charming for 16 years. We have three amazing children whom I have chosen to stay at home with. I’m not sure if you noticed, but the three children were nowhere in the childhood dreams. I had NO desire for children. Not adopted ones. Not birthed ones. NONE. They were terribly annoying, even when I was one. But…things change.

In a world full of chaos, why not let little girls dream?

Our daughter, Evelyn, plays ALL day. She has 1200 horses and all the things to go with. She’s gotten horses for her birthday and Christmas for the last three years. She LOVES them. She sets them up, and she plays out any scenario she can think of. She also likes to have “skateboard lessons” for her stuffed animals with her brother. She likes to race both of her brothers on foot and on her bike/scooter. She likes to read princess books, and Diary of a Wimpy Kid. Not too long ago, she went through a phase when she was spying the kissy pages on her princess books…. All at once. Laid out on her bed.

On the other hand, per her, SHE will NOT be kissing boys, and she wants to adopt ALL the babies who don’t have homes. What an amazing little girl.

In our home, we try to support any type of imaginary play the kids can come up with. It’s where learning, dreams, and genius begin! I had someone ask me the other day “what do your kids do then?” when I told them that we did not have cable.

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This big old world is FULL of not so amazing things. Our children will have to deal with a lot of unhappiness and tragedy before their lives are over. Why not let them dream amazing dreams, whatever they may be, while they can! All I pray for is that they will be happy and successful in ways that make God happy. And not successful as in millionaires, but successful as in that they are able to complete whatever goals they set out before themselves.

I hope that they have families to love and laugh with for years long after their father and I are gone. And, for Evelyn, if that includes marrying a guy she just met (cue handsome Prince…on a horse…it’s all making sense, now…the horse will suck her in…) who she believes can give her the world, so be it. There is no reason that little girls cannot dream big, fairy tale dreams. Now, as I said, She isn’t kissing boys, and plans to adopt all the babies. BUT, it could change, and who am I to tell her what her dreams are?

Maybe we should worry a little less about the harmless, childhood dreams our children are having, and just be thankful that they are dreaming. Our job is to teach our children to be safe and smart and good humans, but there will come a time when all we have left to do for them is pray. Pray for their safety. Pray that we did a good job raising them. Pray that they are smart, healthy, and happy. I know it completely freaked my dad out when I ran off and got married. He had only met my husband ONCE. We moved from West Virginia to California six months later. I am sure he prayed a LOT.

In the age of technology, I thank God my children dream happy and fun dreams. And in a world where SO many people want to tell little girls who and what they should be, I am especially thankful that Evelyn dreams.

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Time

 

TIME

At the beginning of the year I made goals; goals to better myself.

I have let those goals slip.  

Lately, I hear a lot of “I don’t have time”, or “we’re running out of time”.  It’s been a bit annoying, really.  I kept thinking, “We have time for what we choose to have time for.  Priorities”.  

Then, I realized that’s what I’ve been doing!  Granted, my priorities have been rest, rest and more rest, lol, it’s no excuse.  Rest is for the weary.  This baby (37 1/2 weeks now) has been quite the little rascal in there, but I could CHOOSE to get off my rear and accomplish things.  OR, I could choose to sit and blog more.  That WAS one of my goals.

Today, I have straightened things around the house, worked (Mary Kay AND BeachBody), and I am now BLOGGING!  SEE!  Victory!!  😉

Or, I’m just having that burst of energy I keep hearing about.  😉

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  Make time for what is important.  Stop and reassess, from time to time, what IS important…it may change.  Time is a resource we cannot get back…use it wisely!***

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Yes, we are still here.  We are nearing month six of no Daddy, and baby Evelyn is 26 weeks.  

The boys are loving baby Evie. I must admit, I am a bit surprised…ha ha.  They like to feel her move, and, sometimes, they say they want her out…  We then discuss that she isn’t NEARLY ready yet.  😉

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My four year old is still his same old self.  My two year old, however, has lost his mind.  He’s closer to three than two at this point, but everyone swears he’s hitting terrible two’s.  He thinks he a miniature sized boss!  

Not much longer and DADDY can deal with it!  😉  lol

In case I have not informed you darling folks, I started two new business this winter.  I am now an Independent Beauty Consultant with Mary Kay and a Beach Body Coach.  Promoting a beautiful you on the inside AND out!  I love both of these companies, and I am having a blast with them.  

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I have also taken up sewing…  I have been sewing things to put in the baby’s room. 🙂

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Keeping busy and trying not to go crazy in this itty bitty world. 🙂  

Wish me luck!  😉

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  One day at a time. :-)***

New Year, Dirty House?

So far, I am doing well with all my goals.  I have done more of my workout videos in the last week, than I did the whole month of December.  I, EVEN, became an official Beach Body Coach!  😉  Love, Love, Love my shakes and my get fit video!  Don’t be surprised if a THIRD blog pops up.  😉

I have been contemplating our garden.  It is not NEARLY big enough to make enough food to can, but we could at least eat well all summer.  I just need to optimize space and get it going!

I have, definitely, been reading AND blogging more.  I, finally, started “Dreams of Joy”.  I have been wanting to read it forever….LOVE Lisa See!  It is as awesome, so far, as I thought it would be. 🙂  We will, also, be starting a new book at church next Tuesday, “Bad Girls of the Bible“.  I will, definitely, update you on that book as soon as I start it!  🙂

I have been writing a lot in my other blog: Voyage Towards Up.  I missed you all, though, and I wanted to stop in and say HELLO!

The kids are doing great. 🙂  They are so smart, and I can honestly say my patience with their “not smart actions” is getting better.  Day by Day…

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The problem that I have found with all the “bettering me” stuff is that it is worsening the house! I am making time for the things I want to accomplish, but now the house looks like this on a pretty constant basis!

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If anyone out there has a plan to remedy this, PLEASE help!  😉

***McCrazy Daily Lessons: Prioritize…the rest will all work out??***

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Jump Out!

No, not out of the boat…  😉

Do you remember my very second post?!?  ~Try New Things

I was reminded of it tonight, and I thought I would re-share.

Wouldn’t it be SO easy to just sit back and do the same things, with the same people, all the time?  It would get so repetitive that we wouldn’t even have to think!  We could just get up and go, and we would not have a care!

But that’s not why we are here!

We are meant to go out; see new things; meet new people; do new things!

We never know who we might meet or help along the way…  We also never know when an unexpected stranger may help us!

So, to avoid the dull, and to grasp the opportunities life has for us…

***McCrazy Daily Lesson:  Jump OUT! of your comfort zone!***

New Year, New Kind of Resolution

I’m not going to resolve to get fit; I always fail.

I’m not going to resolve to stop all bad habits; I always fail.

I am going to resolve to work on me.  I am going to do my best to become a more well rounded Heather.  I am going to love people more.  I am going to help people more.  I am going to be a more patient and loving mother.

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From these things I hope to set good examples for my babies, family, friends, and strangers.

I would love to get back to doing the things I enjoy, again.  I love my blog, taking pictures, and I love to read.  Hopefully, more of that back in my life.  🙂

I hope to be more healthy.  I will never run a marathon, but I would love to finish a 5k.  Derek, Jr. asks me regularly if we can do the running where they throw colors at us, again.  I want him to keep those memories, strive to be healthy, and keep big dreams.

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I want to cut the junk out of my diet.  I think all the time, “I ate whatever growing up and I’m fine”.  No I didn’t.  We grew a garden, and we ate OUR veggies…and likely more deer meat than I realize.  Natural food.  I would like to get back to that.

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Two very important things will happen this year.  Our family will be whole again; our Daddy will be home!!

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AND shortly after that (hopefully), our family will grow!!  I may still be outnumbered, but at least I won’t be all alone.  Evelyn Isabella is coming!

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Twenty-thirteen wasn’t horrible, but I am DEFINITELY looking forward to the new year.  🙂

TO MY HUSBAND:  I RESOLVE TO BE LESS ELECTRONICALLY DEFICIENT.  :-/  I love you.

We had a nice little party tonight.  It was a great time, and the boys had a blast!  We made new friends!

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They are, of course, out for the night, and that’s ok.  I am blessed to have them sleeping beside me as I “ring in the new year”.  🙂

Tomorrow is a new day; a new year.  The veggie tray is coming out and the Brazil Butt Lift is going in the XBOX!  Healthy, more rounded family starts tomorrow!

What to Do When You Don’t Know What You Want to Do

 

I have a strange problem.  I want to work.   I want to do something worth while.  

I am raising and growing our children, and yes, I do know the importance of that.  However, I am still not used to sitting at home.  And what about when they are all in school??  

I am a L(icensed) P(ractical) N(urse).  I do have a career.  The hours of a nursing home, which is what I LOVE to do, aren’t very child friendly, though.  There’s also the fact that I haven’t worked in years, and by the time I do go back, I have no idea who MIGHT hire me….   :-/

I have thought and thought about other/possibly better choices, but I have no idea!  I do enjoy writing, but don’t even begin to know how to get that on a serious basis.  I think real estate would be fun, but I am not always a people type person…  I also have a hard time talking people into things…  You tell me no, well then, it’s no.   

What else??!?  I have no idea.

I am sure this will pass… I do this once a year, or so.  🙂  I’l.l just go back to loving and enjoying my babies and growing the extra one.  We find out what it is in 11 days!  So excited!!  We discussed and revamped names today.  I am very happy with both, boy and girl, names, now.  🙂 

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Good Night World.  Hope to talk to you, again, soon!

***McCrazy Daily Lesson: Go with the flow…  God will pop up and show you the way.  😉 ***